The therapy methods I use

I offer b0th individual therapy and couples therapy

I work warmly and competently with the range of difficulties human beings experience.

With patience, curiosity and openness, we explore what you would like to see different.

As a psychologist I was trained in a number of therapies but it always comes back to this: we explore thoughts, feelings, and sensations.

Research shows that, despite the great number of therapies out there, the single most important factor in the success of your therapy is the relationship you have with your therapist : if it feel supportive, non judgmental, welcoming but if that person is also stretching you a little to go to the places that scare you, whilst metaphorically holding your hand, then you are in the right place.

internal family system - Level 1, 2 and 3 trained.

IFS is taking the world of therapy by storm and offers a wonderful new way to conceptualize and address thoughts, behaviours or sensations in us that we find puzzling. IFS has the assumption that we all have different traits of personality, that some are there to protect us, defend us - for instance our anger pushing back when we feel attacked or wronged - some other are there to soothe us and distract u - for instance scrolling social media, eating chocolate, when we should be tackling an annoying work project, and some hold pain and vulnerability - for instance in those moment of unexpected vulnerability when we may feel overwhelmed by sadness or shame. Some of those aspects may be in contradiction or conflict with each other: for instance sensing we are procrastinating but not being able to refrain ourselves from distracting ourselves with screens or food. This keeps us stuck. With IFS we gently but clearly and confidently explore those different aspects and delve deeper to find how those different aspects of us developed, what their intentions was, and what vulnerability we would need to heal to allow those aspects to redirect their attentions to different tasks.

sensorimotor psychotherapy

This therapy is more body focused than CBT, in this form of therapy we gently observe what your body carries or holds: pleasant or painful sensations, chronic pain, senses held inside that have no words but do not heal (for instance a heavy grief on the heart, a tightness in the back or jaw that does not soften as hard as we try), by gently following the senses, without analysing or evaluating, we come to deeply understand what is held (for instance, I hold stress in my back - massages do not help, but slowing down, by lessening my stress, relaxes my back). We also now know that ‘the body holds the score”. If you have pains or tighness in the body that do not relent despite medical treatment, this may be for you.

relationship therapy :

I have been trained in three of the most popular and effective relationship therapies: the Gottman Method, Emotions Focused Therapy (EFT) and Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO).

The aim of all relationship therapy is to help partners to better understand how they function as a team, the quality of the space between them, and what interferes in them interacting in ways that leaves them feeling satisfied and heard and understood. In therapy, we explore what comes in the way when partners try and communicate, what emotions get in the way (EFT) or what we do or say that leads to connection, or disconnection. We also explore our usual way of relating when in intimate relationships: whether we prefer a little space, but then is there too much distance, or do we prefer more contact, but do we then have arguments when we do not get that contact…We do all that exploring of what is between us, whilst minimising the judgement or criticism of the other, more focusing on what we want more of, and what we want less of, and learning to ask in ways that are more likely to get us what we need.